So what is Temperature and wax play?
Temperature and wax play can be a way of getting your shy partner down the wonderful path of grateful pain that is fetish and BDSM.With care and patience and some thoughtfully applied stimulus, your play partner will feel waves of pleasurable endorphins and experience an all-new sensual high.
The idea of temperature play
The idea of Temperature and wax play is to arouse the skin‘s neuroreceptors. Stimulation through heat or cold gives the body a rush of sensations. For some of the best results try mixing some different styles and techniques. This will help prove to your partner BDSM doesn’t have to be brutal but instead is a pleasurable pain.
As we have discussed before safety is your number one priority and you should already have your safeword in place as well as the appropriate first aid equipment
There are many ways of trying temperature play or in fact wax play. Wax play is a fetish all of its own but we have included it here as it is a great add-on to the whole experience. Many find that a blindfold of some description really helps as this heightens your other senses intensifying the effects of the play. To further the intensity you can also restrain your partner with handcuffs, rope or a restraint. This is dependent on the trust level you and your partner.
Many household items can be used to experiment with. From the water, ice, chocolate sauce fresh fruit metal spoons, chains and many other things besides. Most people will start out using Water, ice, and other safer items moving on to fire and wax at a later date. Temperature play itself is not really caused as BDSM more of a kink it is still a great gateway on to other things.
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So below you will find a list of items frequently used for temperature play we have added a scale next to them so you can judge if you are ready to play with this element. 1 is low and 5 is high.
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Water 1 out of 5
So water, h20 or council pop whatever you call it we all have it to hand. Try laying in a bath or on a waterproof sheet and pour water over your partner’s chest and arms then switch to a colder or hotter water.
Intermittently kissing the area to get the passion flowing. As you get further into the world of temperature play you can try pouring it on the genitals seeing how cold and how hot you can go. Always trying the water on yourself first as you don’t want to scold your play partner.
Ice 1 out of 5
Running an ice cube over a naked body leaving a train of cold water which you can gently blow on adding more sensations to the skin. Running an ice cube over the nipples or around the genitals wakes up the nerve endings making them super sensitive. Use this in conjunction with a warm object to switch up the sensations. For a random different effect hold the ice cube above the body in your clenched fist this will melt it slowly and release randomly sized droplets of water. This can be a great sensation when restrained in and BDSM restraints.
More fun with ice can come from you can freezing pieces of fruit try watermelon or cucumber. Tese both freeze well due to the high water content. You can then use your mouth to hold the fruit as you explore the most sensitive parts of your partner’s body
Food 1-2 out of 5
Warm milk, cold custard, cold fruit lots of food can be used for temperature play. Often turning into sploshing fun. My personal favourites are to use melted chocolate to pour over the body and then run an ice cube through mixing up the sensations to give a whole new level of feelings and sensations After you also get the task of licking it all up :).
Metal spoons 3 out of 5
With a simple couple of spoons, it is easy to make hot and cold sensations with nothing more than the air and your own body. The spoon itself left in the air will be colder than the human skin. Running this along the body can produce a cold sensation like a knife edge without the fear of being cut. This can be heightened with a bowl of cold or ice water leaving the spoon in the bowl this will dramatically reduce the temperature of the spoon. The metal will also stay cold for a longer amount of time allowing for longer periods of pleasure.
Heating the spoon is easily done by placing the spoon in your palm for several minutes this will bring it up above the skin’s temperature. And is a great alternative to the cold spoon. The air cooled and body heated spoons are perfect for anyone looking to start playing with BDSM temperature play. To move the heat hotter you can place the spoon in a cup of hot water. This will give different sensations whether you use the bowl or the edge of the spoon. We have heard of people using a lighter or flame to heat up the spoon but this is highly unpredictable to judge if it is safe or will permanently mark the skin.
Glass and resin items 2 out of 5
Glass balls or a simple tumbler can both be cooled in the fridge or freezer and then rolled across the body giving a broader area of sensation perfect for the bum or chest. The Glass items can also be heated in water but never heat a cooled item to fast it may shatter. Before using any glass item you must make sure it is free from chips or breaks. These will cause injury to your play partner. Our resin dildos or but plugs to can be warmed and chilled just like the glass items. If you have some glass marbles these make great items to use simply heat and chill some then using a palm’s worth use them to massage your partner. Relaxing and exciting your partner
Wax play 4 out of 5
Which Candles are safe to use?
Household candles often contain paraffin making them melt at a hotter temperature. If you are using household candles practice on your own leg dripping from a high distance slowly lowering till you reach the point where it’s too hot. This will different through for your play partner. Stay clear of candles made from beeswax, scented and ones with metal wicks these all burn at an extremely high temperature and can cause serious second degree burns
Special candles have been designed for use in BDSM and sex play. Made from Soy which melts at a much lower temperature.
With the candles, you can tease with random hot drips or wait till you have a pool and coat a large area in the hot sensual wax.
So for a stress-free first time into wax play make sure you do a few things first.
Make sure you lay or stand above is nonflammable just in case you do drop the candle. Checking that there are no curtains that can blow into the flames. You may also not want to do it on your best bed sheets.
To make removing the wax easier and painless start by removing hair from any area you are going to drip wax onto. Then with some good quality massage oil slowly massage oil into the skin, this will also help relax the mood. The oil must fully be soaked in before play takes place.
Then the fun can begin light your candles and allow to melt for a minute. Then test a small amount on the back of your on hand to test the temperature. If This feels like it should dip a small amount onto your partner or submissives arm from around 18” away. If they are happy and have no adverse reactions you can move on to full play.
Starting with the back and shoulders this will always both you and your play partner to settling into the height of the candle and the heat. Once this is cool you can now move on to more sensitive areas. Including my favourites the bum, breasts, and stomach. To heighten the sensitivity you can alternate in a random pattern with candles and then drip or run an ice cube across the body this will help set the wax and affects the nerves that supply the skin heightening the sensation.
After practising for a few times you can experiment with covering the entire area. Creating a costume or with shapes and patterns, the use of a stiff brush only adds to the feelings.
Wax Removal and Aftercare
wax play removal can be a painful exercise if this is what you would like it to be. If you have massaged the body with oil the wax will simply lift off with no pain or discomfort. Removing the wax can be a sensory BDSM experience. Try peeling the wax off with your fingernail or scraping with a comb. If you submissive behaves perhaps try spanking them with one of our paddles or flogs.
After the session is over your skin will need a little TLC. It is important to treat it as soon as possible. The best solution is a message with some after sun lotion or aloe vera. Possibly add these to your BDSM kit box.
Fire 5 out of 5
Fire play is something we have never tried. We would suggest that if you would like to try fire play you look into the matter further. Lots of people in the BDSM community that have excellent knowledge in the play type and will be able to help you further.
Fire play rarely leaves marks on the skin. Some people do deliberately burn the skin slightly to leave it red and irritated.
As you would expect fire play involves using flames to tickle the skin. The flame is applied using a fire wand which is a small torch that holds typically 70% isopropyl alcohol as fuel. As with lots of other BDSM activities, there is more than one way to apply the flames including a glove, flaming flogs and whips.
You will need to do your research into which ones suit you.
Two common styles I found on the web. Bouncing is the tapping or bouncing along the skin with the small fire torches. Gives short brief sensations to the receiver. Streaking fuel is added to the skin in most commonly a straight line. Then set alight this is then put out fast before any damage or burning of the skin takes place.
We hope this has been of some help to you and hope it helps you experiment and discover new pleasures.
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