BDSM engraved spanking paddles and personalised spanking paddles

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Spanking paddles are an extremely big part of BDSM culture and impact play. with so many different shapes, sizes, materials, and colors its hard to know what to chose for you. With shape and size considerations we have written an in-depth look at this subject here. But once you have chosen your Spanking paddle why not make it your own.

Make your Spanking paddle your own

We can now offer personalization and engraved spanking paddles to suit you. We can personalize your paddle in many ways from hand-carved letters, patterns and pyrography they all look and feel different, all can be combined with many options. Bellow is set out a look at the different methods of customizing your paddles and in fact most of our BDSM and bondage toys and accessories. We can even custom make your paddle to your specifications just contact us before you buy and we can take care of everything ahead of time. 

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Hand carved lettering.

So you want to get a paddle that really leaves the right mark to your spanking. personalizing your spanking paddle with letters will enable you to leave a pattern or word in the marks left behind. The marks can be difficult to get right first but with practice, you will get it right 100% of the time. We are able to offer many fonts and will be able to discuss the best size and font for your desired personalization. W can also paint the inside of the letters to make them stand out more. With carved letters, it is only possible to carve on one side of the paddle or risk weakening the paddle and making it not fit for purpose.

The lettering can be produced in both positive and negative. The negative version will leave the word readable on the submissives bottom after the spanking. We can also paint the lettering or design to help create more interest to the design.

Pyrography design.

Pyrography is done using a specialized pen using electricity to heat a wire tipped pen to burn a design on to wood or leather. The finished design will give a textured effect to the surface to the timber. Many methods are used to create the design from dots, cross-hatching to shading using different temperatures this can help give an interesting and visually effective design. Pyrography will never leave a mark like the carved letters will. Due to the nature of the engraving, it lends its self to display items perfect for a frat discipline paddle.

Gratefulpain customised BDSM spanking paddles

Laser/ Router/ CNC

Similar to the pyrograph the laser burns a design into the surface of the spanking paddle. The laser is controlled via a computer with this control, far more precise and detailed pictures can be produced. Not only can the laser engrave on wooden paddles it can also engrave on Lexan paddles.

The router is handheld and gives similar results to hand-carved letters but is extremely fast. We do use this on some designs but to be honest I prefer the look and finish given to the engraved spanking paddle from hand carving. Similar to the laser, CNC engraving is controlled via a pc. The CNC can give extremely fine and detailed work which is perfect for leaving that lasting impression on your submissive. The downside to CNC is that it can be expensive.

Stain and paint.

All of the wooden BDSM items and your engraved spanking paddles can be stain with a rainbow of colors including all the colors you can see below

Being able to stain your bondage gear to match your existing furniture. This is great if you are adding a coffee table spanking bench to your living room, the stain can make it blend in with your existing furniture. Perfect for all of your vanilla guests. All of the engraving options have their place and we will always help you get the look and feel you desire from your engraved spanking paddles.

These are only the current ways in which we can customize your paddle to best fit your needs if you have an idea for a way we can alter your paddle with new ideas and methods please feel free to contact us and we can discuss them.

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How to review BDSM products

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Let others know what you think, review BDSM products

 

So you have made the plunge and purchased a paddle or perhaps a Breast clamp and you want to tell the world what you thought of it well you can. Extremely easy and fast read on to find out more about review BDSM products
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Why write a Gratefulpain product review?

Writing a product review let others know how real people think about our products. These insights can help people purchase the correct items for thee needs. It’s also a great way to share new and exciting ways of using our fetish items. Also, help others with tips and advice on how to use the items or how to get into items such as the Humbler. The Product reviews are not only useful to the other site users but they are also extremely useful to us. We take all feedback on board and use it to improve our products as well as develop new ones. We also like reviews as it helps us sell more of our Kinky things helping others get their Gatefulpain :).

 

How to add your review onto the site

A picture is said to speak a thousand words so we have added lots of pictures of how you can go about adding your BDSM review to our site. So to write a product review you have to have actually purchased the product.

Stage one.

Step one is simple go to www.gratefulpain.co.uk and log into your account.picture diagram of how to review BDSM products  

 

Step two.

After logging in simply scroll down and find your orders via the tab on the left-hand side.

After clicking it will open up all your orders find the one with the product you want to review and click. This will bring up a copy of the invoice simply click on the product name and it will take you to that specific product page in this example the Fetish hand stocks.

 

Step Three

Scroll down and click the review tab this will bring up the review section as per the below picture. With three simple steps give us a 5-star rating then fill in your review and then finally submit your review.   

So that’s it you have now helped others out within the BDSM community as well as the newcomers to the fantastic world of kink and fetish.

 

Whats next?

We are always looking for new and exciting ideas and always look towards people within the community to tell us what they want. So do you have an idea? Want to work with us on a product to help you get better enjoyment and pleasure from your BDSM sessions. Contact us with your ideas and who knows you could help us produce the next big pleasurable pain piece.

 

Here at Grateful Pain we only encourage safe and consensual BDSM and fetish between adults. If you want more information on a BDSM we have many more articles to read including safe words and paddle care.

Safe words

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Safe words

So we have all heard things about safe words and their role within the BDSM community. But what is the truth?

 

The truth about safe words is they are a vital role for any novice or a professional person playing any role within the community not only for your own safety but the safety and well-being of the others around you.

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A Safeword is going to come into play when things get a little kinkier. Many couples do not think they will need one but once in the heat of passion, it’s very easy to go too far and stop short your journey into the wonderful world of BDSM. We hope over the course of this article we can give you some help and advice into safe words and safe actions. The use of “no” or “ stop” is not used as these can be seen as part of the scene going on and is often a part of the whole roleplay expense. Many organized BDSM groups have standard safewords that all members agree to use to avoid confusion at organized play events.

So in mainstream lives and society, we are taught no means no. This is the case and should be respected and all life, sex, and fetish should be safe sane and consensual. This is easily the case for a normal life but once in a BDSM scene or playing at home in the bedroom “no” can become part of the fun to the submissive the feeling of losing all control.

 

I know that this probably doesn’t sound sexy at all, but it totally can be!

As well as a main safe word some partners also have a range of safe words to indicate levels of comfort to the scene also known as a  traffic lights system. This does not stop the play but can just calm it down a little. A good set of graduation safe words is Green, Yellow, and Red just like traffic lights easy for any party to understand. Green is the best one or “please don’t stop” and yellow simply being I need a breath.Safe words traffic light

If the main safe word or red is used the Dom in the scene must respect this unconditionally. A Submissive will only use this safeword because it’s got too much for them this can be mentally or physically.  The activity or entire scene is over. All restraints must be removed immediately and in the fastest way possible. We suggest keeping some tools with you. Suggested tools are paramedics shears wire snips and of course a first aid kit. Remember the submissive’s safety is the number one priority if you have to cut or break the restraints do so you can always get more.

 

The top or dominant is always the most responsible one in any play session as should always be looking out for their subs Well fair, Taking active and positive steps to check the mental and physical state of their partner. A submissive will not always call for a stop as not wanting to upset or disrespect their master.

BDSM Safety is everyone’s responsibility

 

If you are in a club or with others and hear the safe word being ignored. Please help the submissive and report to the dungeon/ play space owner. If you don’t feel confident enough to step in look for another dominate to help. Ignoring safewords is considered a deeply immoral practice in the BDSM community. If you find yourself the sub in need do not worry others will always come to your aid. This is why theCommunity-wide safe words are suggested then everyone is on the same page.

 

Sometimes it is not always possible for the submissive to speak. Maybe there gagged or wearing a hood this is where a safe signal is used. This can be anything as simple as dropping an item held in the hand or perhaps a rhythmical grunt or fingertip. Whatever it is it needs to be clearly discussed by both parties before play takes place.

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When picking your safe word think of something short and easy to say. Some kinkster uses a jolting word some word that will make your partner stop dead in the tracks. Totally unsexy stopping the action in its tracks.

 

The generally accepted safe word in the S&M community is “safeword” and “red”. Using these words in public spaces such as a BDSM dungeon or club everyone in the place will know these. This will help to make it easier to have more trust in your partner.

 

Stay safe

Whatever fetish or scene you want to play out please remember to stay safe. The BDSM and fetish community is a great place full of helpful people all willing to share their knowledge with you. Safe words journey Anyone in the lifestyle for any length of time will share with you how much fun and enjoyment they have had from it. So don’t cut your journey short follow
the safe words advice and stay safe.

 

We have lots of other articles on other parts of BDSM and fetish for you to read and comment on. Some will help you choose the right one of our products to purchase opening up new paths for you. So if you have any comments please leave them below. Please share this with anyone else you feel might benefit from it.

Wooden toys and Spanking paddle cleaning information

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Wooden toys and spanking paddle cleaning information

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Wood and the myths and fears surrounding it.

 

Wood is feared within the sex toy industry.  A Lot of people’s biggest fear of wooden toys is not the material itself it’s from spitters. These fears are totally unjustified as a piece of well finished wooden toys will not give you any splinters, When was the last time you thought twice about using a wooden spoon. Spatula or a salad bowl ?. The only time there is any likelihood of a splinter is if the product is damaged or broken which again is highly unlikely.

 

Wood is a chemically stable wood and will not change over time although some timber is not suitable for use for dildos or butt plugs the majority of timbers out there are all safe. For all our products we tend to stick to English food safe timbers only using specialty timber for handles and one-off piece. The process of manufacturing all of our products takes as long as it takes as some pieces will be taken right back to the beginning of the finishing process if we are not 100% happy with them. Spending more than 50% of the manufacturing process making sure the product is as smooth as silk with no pesky splinters.

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  • Smooth
  • Individual
  • Takes on body temperature fast
  • Aesthetically pleasing
  • Firm
  • Long-lasting

CONS

  • Not 100% non-porous
  • Not 100% non-toxic

How does it feel? Is this material the right choice for me?

No two of our pieces will ever be the same down to the unique nature of this amazingly versatile material. With our years of background knowledge in the joinery trade and furniture manufacturer, we know how to utilize a piece of wood to show off its true potential and how to get the most strength out of it. Choosing the timber from different areas of the tree give us great versatility to the finished product

All of our wooden products are easy to clean and maintain. We use high-quality finishes specifically chosen for their hard wearing properties. Also, provides improved heat and water resistance and does not contain harmful petroleum solvents such as toluene or xylene.

 

Caring for your paddle made easy!

 

Wood cannot be sterilized but the lacquer we use can be wiped down with antibacterial wipes. After a hard session, there may be small amounts of sweat or other bodily fluids on your spanking paddle. Simply wipe it down with your chosen wipe. Spirit or alcohol-based cleaners can damage the finish so we don’t suggest they are used.fdv

Whenever you put your paddles or wooden toys away you need to make sure they are completely dry as wood can take on moisture with will cause it to warp and possibly split. Making sure the place you store your toys in is also important. The storage place must be clean and dry and not too hot so not and airing cupboard.

 

So how do you keep your spanking paddles looking beautiful?

 

Now to keep the shine on your wooden spanking paddle you will need to “feed” it and we don’t mean take it out for a 3-course meal and a bottle of red wine. A wipe over with oil such as our toy oil or a butcher’s block oil.  c Our oil contains tea tree extract that will help disinfects the paddle.

Simply applied with some kitchen paper or an old cloth. Apply a small amount of oil on the paper or the cloth and with your finger make small circles to rub in the oil. A sheen or oily finish will stay on the surface for a while and any excess needs removing after 24 hours this allows some of the product to soak in. there is no need to put the item in front of a radiator or fan to dry in fact it’s better to leave it to naturally cure at its own speed. It’s ready to use again when you touch it and don’t feel the oil residue on your fingers.

 

How to Clean Your Wood Sex Toy

 

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  • Non-abrasive Soap and warm water
  • Antibacterial soap
  • 10% bleach (depends on the type of coating)

NO

  • Boiling
  • Dishwasher
  • Alcohol or spirit based products

LUBES

If you are going to use any lubrication with any of our products we suggest only using water-based ones. Others may affect the finish. A small amount of lube will go a long way.
If any of your Wooden toys do get damaged please contact us with photos and we will see if we can get it all back to being as good as new. Photos can be sent using our contact form on the contact us page. Repair cost will vary on amount of work needed and shipping is chargeable  dsc_0527-1

Spanking Paddle designs and shapes

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Spanking paddle designs and shapes

So many variations the choice is yours

 

With many variations in Spanking paddle designs and shapes and additions the possibility to have your paddle just the right way for your particular BDSM style. Here at Gratefulpain, we have tried to come up with so truly amazing and versatile styles of fetish spanking paddles.

Below we have tried to cover some of the more common design features on our paddles. With both their pro and cons to help you make a more informed decision on which one to purchase first.

 

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Holes in Spanking paddle

 

There are many theories floating around the internet BDSM community about were holes in Spanking paddle originally came from. So even after scouring the internet for many many hours, we have still not found a definitive answer to the origins of the holes in paddles. One of the biggest reasons for drilling holes in the blade of a Spanking paddle is to give the user less air resistance on the swing. With the paddle having less surface area the pressure is distributed over a smaller area giving more sting. Some people also say that the holes allow the cushion of air to be released from in front of the paddle also increasing the pressure per square inch of the impact.

“less surface area + force = more fun per square inch”

An interesting alternative to the whole debate is is it better to have through holes or “blind holes”. With our knowledge of wood and its strengths and weaknesses drilling a hole through the Spanking paddle blade would, in fact, reduce the weight and increase the speed of travel but would weaken the structure of the blade making it easier to break and split. With a blind hole not penetrating the wood keeping more of the strength intact.

The theory i found for blind holes is that the skin of the spankee would get pushed into the blind holes creating a small amount of suction making the paddle stick slightly creating a better sensation. Some blind holes can have a small through hole in the center to relieve some pressure.

Blind Holes – Tapered sides

Regular Holes – Straight sides

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Spanking paddle end shapes

 

It is possible to cut the ends of any of our Spanking paddle to virtually any shape possible as a standard we only offer square and rounded. Where we can cut the paddles in to elaborate shapes these Spanking paddle then become useless as an actual play toy as the ends will become too weak and sharp with the possibility to do a lot of permanent halm to a person. That said there are shapes we will never have thought of so feel free to contact us to discuss any ideas you may have.

 

“smaller Spanking paddle work better on the naked buttocks.”

 

The round end paddle is perfect acacia paddle round end and olive ash handlefor anyone the rounded shape to the end of the paddle reduces the risk of the corner hitting your partner and breaking the skin. This would be the one we would recommend as a first paddle for anyone entering the wonderful world of BDSM and impact play.

 

 

 

 

 

Birch Paddle with yew handle profileThe square end has more of a traditional look of a spanking paddle and can still be used by anyone the square corners can break the skin if they come into contact with the skin of your submissive or play partner. But the square end will stand far better on a floor keeping it within easy reach of any dominatrix or dominant male. You should never spank and paddle with the edge piece of BDSM equipment.

 

 

Length and width

Large + short = thuddy

Small + thin = stingy

With our Spanking paddle, we tend to make the wider ones shorter in length and the thinner and narrower ones longer. This said there is nothing to say it has to be like that for you. Were a long thin narrow paddle such as our Stinger will give a very sharp stinging bite. The best way to describe the feeling is a burning heat felt on the surface of the skin. Extremely pleasurable but the feeling can be short-lived. The thinner the paddle the more lines and marks will be left with to some are worn as badges of honor for days later a reminder of their grateful pain the received.

 

We have spent many years trying to work out a rule to calculate a length to width ratio but nothing seems to work as different doms use paddles in different ways, as well as the difference between a male and females build and strength. This can be changed by simple things like if the spanker has a past injury or perhaps they play tennis instead of golfing it all just goes to show that no two people will swing the same.

As a rule, a longer paddle tends to flow through the air slower. The wider paddle will put the force of the swing over a greater area giving the impact a deeper thud a deep penetrating blow, felt deep in the muscle, and less so in the skin

 

“Mastering the thud and sting will improve your impact play technique.”

 

We are always happy to alter lengths of paddles making them longer or shorter to suit your needs the only exception to this is the Stinger we can’t actually make it any longer.

 

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Texture and material

Texture can be added in many ways to any object. But a Spanking paddle needs to be secure, not sharp in any way and easy to clean and sterilize in case if does puncture the skin. We have used many materials and objects to gain texture on our paddles and increase the pleasure variety of the feelings.  

 

“Wood is where it all started for us”

 

Wood :

The product we use the most different woods produces different stings and thuds. But as explained in the lengths and width category. So many things can alter and change the type of pleasure felt by the submissive.

Ash.

Traditionally a timber used in handles as well as the framework in the Morgan sports car. This is due to its fantastic ability to absorb and reduce vibrations. So why to use this for a piece of BDSM equipment let alone a paddle. When used in a paddle yes it soaks up vibrations but this means your fun can last longer and you will get more of the pleasurable deep muscular feelings.

 

It is also a fantastic timber to look at able to be stained with a variety of colors and finishes to a hick flawless finish.

 

Birch.

Traditionally Birching was a form of corporal punishment using a bundle of fresh cut birch twigs as a spanking implement. Where you can’t use birch twigs as a Spanking paddle the timber from the trunk to produce some fine close-grained paddles. Taking a traditional material to the next stage.

 

Hazle, sycamore, yew, laburnum, are among some of the other timbers we use. They both great blades and the handles for our fantastic BDSM paddles. Please see our caring for your wooden Fetish and BDSM items guide.

 

Leather

The leather is a wonderfully sensual material quickly warming up to body temperature. Some leather paddles have a core of thin plywood this is to give the material some spring and structure. Others like the ones we make are two pieces of leather sewn together then the handles are wrapped in custom turned wooden handles. These give a great feeling and can be used with either a soft or hard swing. Over time the leather will bed in an take on its own partner and become softer. Please see our leather care guide for how to care for your leather BDSM equipment.

 

Rubber

Rubber is a real pain giver so these items are not for the novice BDSM players. Typically 6-13mm thick they can be relatively thick and ungiving. The pain is high and extremely thuddy and deep sensation. Not for the faint-hearted. This is one of the few items we make in limited runs.  

 

Kevlar, carbon fiber and Lexan

We have not seen many Spanking paddle made from these materials. Being bulletproof you really can give this item some stick able to give thud or a sting. With the limited runs of Kevlar and carbon fiber paddles. We make using the best timbers and handmade resin to create one of a kind paddles.

All of these materials have little to no shock absorbing properties so will land a great sting.

 

Bamboo

An extremely lightweight material with little to no flex will deliver sweet tingly spanks with a loud audible tone. This material like the rubber is not for the faint-hearted but for the serious players. Giving a perfect prolonged play time to your BDSM scene.

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Hanging/wrist  straps

We offer wrist or hanging straps as an optional extra on our paddle designs and shapes. Offering this as an extra offers maximum flexibility to you the user. This is a personal thing so whether you like them or hate them there as an option.

 

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  • Extra security prevents paddle leaving your hand
  • Makes hanging your strap easy
  • Can be used as a small flogger

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Cons

  • Can get in the way
  • Reduces some movement
  • Can get caught on buckles and hooks

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We have tried to cover all of the paddle designs and shapes options. As time goes on I’m sure we will develop more ideas and will update this list. If you feel we have some misinformation or you have something to add please feel free to Send us a email or comment below.

Choosing the correct Spanking Paddle

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Choosing the correct Spanking Paddle
And shape for Your Needs

There are loads of different paddles out there and it can be a little daunting for anyone taking their first steps in the fascinating and pleasurable world of fetish impact play. especially when is comes to Choosing the correct Spanking Paddle.
With so many options to choose from to find the right paddle can be challenging. The following article will help answer some of those questions.

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The basic things that determine the pleasurable pain factor of a paddle are

  • The force used to swing the paddle more will increase the amount of pain
  • The size of the impact surface the larger the surface is the less pressure per square cm
  • The thickness of the paddle will impact the amount of the force is soaked up into the paddle itself. In a thinner paddle can’t absorb a lot of force and will cause a stinging surface pain. A thicker paddle will give a deep muscular sensation
  • The material used the different materials used will greatly alter the feeling given by your paddle. Ash bladed paddles will give a 3-5 out of 10 were a rubber or kevlar one will give you a 10.

If we were to pick a paddle for beginner we would go for one like this one

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First of all, a good overall length not too long and not too short giving the best starting point for practicing to hit your mark. The width makes the paint softer and easier to receive for anyone starting out. With its rounded end, it reduces the risk of breaking the skin and causing injury and potentially putting you and your play partner of the fetish. We have suggested using a wooden paddle to start with as these we feel are the easiest to learn with warming up to body temperature and feeling good in the hand.

Choosing the correct Spanking Paddle is just the beginning

This is just the beginning of your journey exploring your role whether it’s a submissive enjoying taking the pain, or as a dominate dealing out the pleasurable pain. Like some, you may also be a switch as the name suggests you enjoy switching from the top or dom role to the bottom the submissive’s role.

As part of your passage into the world of the BDSM community, you can then move on. Different materials, lengths or perhaps a paddle with holes in it all will alter the feeling gained from being punished. Many other guides including a more in-depth look at paddles and their options and how to look after and care for many other items from our store. Finally, we hope this has helped you with Choosing the correct Spanking Paddle.

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We offer many different BDSM and fetish products in all sizes and shapes. With the option to customize paddles and many of our other products the sky really is the limit. So if you don’t see what you need or have a dream in mind please just email us.

 We would love to help your dreams a reality and help you get your Grateful pain.

Whenever venturing into any form of BDSM or kink safety is always the number one priority. This is extremely prominent when you are starting out. If you and your partner decided to be submissive or dominate another party. Make sure you always only ‘play’ with someone you know and trust.

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A safe word is must be discussed and agreed before any fetish scene or play takes place. “NO” doesn’t always mean know in a BDSM power exchange session. Especially relevant when using items such as gags a safe word is not possible so the use of a safe action is needed. Consequently, this is only a brief look at safe words. We would suggest you read more basic safety tips for bondage and BDSM in this related article. More about safewords and the traffic lights system can be found here.
Finally, do you know any fact about BDSM, kink, fetish or paddles that we don’t ? or have we got a fact wrong?

please comment below with any we have missed.

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